What the hell does this mean? (getting mixed messages)?

i met this perfect guy at a party last fri. we talked all night. i asked 4 his # and he took mine. he texted me sat night. i could not text-i didnt have messaging. i called sun afternoon and didnt get him. added him on facebook and he wrote, i wrote back-then nothing. texted him next night. he texted back immediatly, i replied, nothing. then i waited 3 days, called fri night b4 i went out...i actually though that he picked up and hung up on me! but there was no background noise when it picked up so i wasnt sure (happens to me on the subway) i thought he hated me but then he poked me back on facbook the next day (i had poked him about a day ago). i texted him yesterday (since calling sux) saying if he wanted to have coffee sometime he should let me kno. what is he telling me?? he goes to a nearby college (we're both freshman) I'm bad a flirt and feel i havent done much w/ my little opportunity. he is british...is this what they do overthere? is it wrong to still think well get together?

What the hell does this mean? (getting mixed messages)?
sounds like a player to me too.


if he isn't giving you straight clear signals (it doesn't matter if he's shy) then he's not that into you





I know this sounds mean... but I've realized this from experience (quite recent actually)
Reply:Sounds like a busy guy... 1st rule dont be pushy or seam klingie! Guys hate that..... Be str8 up and confident maby dont txt/poke/call him for a week then invite him to a party or to go out to a movie dont be vauge like some time maby go see some movie... say like hay you wana go see (Movie Name) Saturday nyte with me? its ment 2 be good.





then gauge what he says to that
Reply:To me, it sounds like he doesn't know what he wants, or else, he doesn't think about you often, but when he does, he thinks you're fun/nice/cool/sexy or whatever. Some fuys are just too screwed up in the head to do what might actually make them happy.





Basically, i think that getting to know you, getting to like you, maybe getting together is on his list of things he wants to do. But he's got a lot of other things on that list to, and he hasn't made you a priority.





So don't chase him, just poke him every now and then, maybe get to know a few people he knows so you'll get a chance to see him again. But don't put the rest of your life on hold while you're waiting. Carry on living, make sure your eyes are still open for other guys, and if it's going to happen, it'll happen.
Reply:Sounds like just bad luck. Poor communication.





Give it time, but be wary that he's not just looking for a hook-up.
Reply:Dont read too much into all of this.


People come and people go - be a bit more relaxed about meeting people - you dont have to connect with every single person you ever meet or have a liking for.


Also dont make the mistake of thinking that just because someone texts you back that they are really INTO YOU.


Texting is often a far easier way for people to communciate on a less meaningful level - they dont have to register disapproval in your voice etc.


Also its is very easy to delete a text, isnt it.


Let it pass.


he doesnt want to be with you - although he doesnt mind easy low level communciation, just more like very casual acquaintances.


Stop trying to force things.
Reply:relax and chill. he's a player.